Sexual abuse doesn’t choose a gender — but society often does.
For decades, the face of sexual abuse has been painted with only one brushstroke — female. But there’s another side to this tragedy. One less spoken. One often denied.
Men are survivors too.
They live among us — in offices, churches, classrooms, markets, and homes — carrying the weight of a trauma many are too afraid to name. The silence is deafening. And for some, it’s deadly.
At Charly Boy Foundation, we refuse to keep quiet. It’s time we talk — really talk — about male sexual abuse.
Why Don’t Men Speak Up?
Because the world tells them not to.
Because masculinity is confused with silence.
Because boys are taught from birth:
“Don’t cry.”
“Be tough.”
“Real men don’t get hurt.”
So when abuse happens — and yes, it does happen — they bury the pain. It hides behind laughter, anger, substance use, failed relationships, and in some cases… suicide.
This silence isn’t strength. It’s survival. But at what cost?
It Happens More Than You Think
In boarding schools.
In homes.
In places of worship.
In correctional facilities.
Male sexual abuse doesn’t always come from strangers. Often, it wears a familiar face: a coach, a neighbor, a mentor, a family member.
And when boys speak up — if they speak up — they’re met with skepticism or shame.
- “You should’ve fought back.”
- “That doesn’t happen to guys.”
- “Maybe you liked it?”
These words cause wounds that last longer than the abuse itself.
The True Cost of Silence
Unspoken trauma becomes generational pain.
Men suffer in silence, struggling to form healthy relationships. Some carry guilt that was never theirs. Others battle addictions, mental illness, or worse — lose their lives.
And some, tragically, repeat the cycle.
The silence doesn’t just destroy individuals. It damages families, communities, and entire generations.
We Must Change the Narrative
We must create a world where a man can say:
“It happened to me.”
Without being laughed at.
Without being questioned.
Without being labeled as weak.
Because being a survivor doesn’t mean you’re broken — it means you’re brave.
Male survivors don’t just need hotlines. They need healing.
They need therapy.
They need believers.
They need a culture that doesn’t mock their pain or invalidate their experience.
Here’s How You Can Help
✅ Believe survivors — even when it’s uncomfortable.
✅ Stop the jokes. Rape is never funny.
✅ Speak up. If you suspect abuse, say something.
✅ Support platforms like Charly Boy Foundation that are fighting to break the silence.
Final Word: To the Silent Survivors
To every man who’s endured this pain and kept it buried…
We see you.1
We believe you.
You are not alone.
You are not weak.
You are not to blame.
You are a survivor.
And now, more than ever, the world needs your voice.
📢 If you or someone you know is a male survivor of sexual abuse and needs support, reach out to us at Charly Boy Foundation.
Let’s walk this healing journey — together. 💙
